Dented and Damaged

I received this post this morning from Proverbs 31.  It couldn’t have come to me on a better day!

“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18 (NIV)

I walked down the aisle of the discount grocery looking for a bargain. It’s always hit and miss in this store … and I had missed … again.

Before giving up and accepting defeat, I passed by a bin that caught my eye. The sign read: “Damaged Goods.” It was filled with dented cans and missing labels … no real rhyme or reason, just random items that were not shelf worthy. I knew just how that felt.

Life sometimes delivers the unexpected. Lessons learned in the school of hard knocks bruise us, dent us and remove the label that we believe defines who we are. A miscarriage strips away the title of mother. A divorce takes away the role of wife. A pink slip eliminates our role of employee.

We can feel as if we have been tossed into a bin, no longer worthy of a place on the shelf. With enough dents and damage, we can believe the lie that we are first-class failures and all hope is gone.

Shaking myself from my theological musings, I leaned over and intentionally chose a dented can with no label from the bin. I got it home and placed it on the counter with anxious anticipation. The whirr of the can opener finally penetrated the metal lid to reveal … peaches!!! I let out a schoolgirl squeal! I love peaches!! What a treat to open this can and be greeted by one of my favorite fruits. The can was damaged but the contents were still good … and sweet.

God continued the lesson He began in the grocery store.

I have been damaged. We all have to some degree. I am not living the life that I dreamed about when I was a kid. However, the damage that I have suffered has made the contents of my heart so much sweeter, so much more compassionate, so much more in pursuit of Jesus. I have been looked down upon and judged by many who have seen my labels missing and slapped on their own.

I’ve wanted to say, “Don’t judge too quickly. My damage has not defined me. It is refining me.” I may sometimes be at the bottom of life’s bin, but Jesus paid as high a price for those of us at the bottom as He did for those that are proudly displayed on the top shelf. In fact, Psalm 34:18 reassures me that He is near to those who are crushed and broken. What a relief that is!

Look around. Is there someone in your life, your family or your church that you consider “damaged goods”? Don’t miss an opportunity to reach out to them, to love them. You just might find a friendship that is good and sweet. And while reaching out to them, take a good look around at how the Lord is near to you. Wrap yourself up in His presence. That is one label that can’t be taken from us!

Dear Lord, my life hasn’t turned out exactly like I thought it would. But, I know You can still use me. Please forgive me for labeling others and judging them by their outside circumstances instead of the work that You are doing in their hearts. Help me realize that we all have dents but that’s what keeps us desperate for You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

I hope that reading that spoke to some of you as much as it did me.  You are always sweet inside even if your label got torn a little along the way!

Words With Friends

Over the past few days many things have come to question.  I won’t go into any detail of the things I have been questioning because that isn’t really the topic here.  However, I do find myself doing this a lot throughout my life.  Questioning that is.  From a child on through adolesence and now adulthood.  I am not sure that I will ever know the answers to my questions or even if I want to, but I do know that God has his purpose for everything that has happened.  Which brings me to my title “Words With Friends”.

 

Over the past few days of my questioning after everyone has settled and the little guy is in bed I have been playing “Words With Friends” to sort of turn my mind off.  Tonight the answer to all my questions was right in my face.  A friend had started a new game with me and as I was looking at my jumbled up letters I saw “H I J E S U S”.  It was so simple.  I just need to talk to Jesus.  I need to ask him my all my questions.  Maybe he will reveal the answers to me and maybe he will hold on to them until the right moment to reveal.  Either way, if you find yourself questioning anything just kneel down, close your eyes and say “Hi, Jesus”.

 

Love – Day 25

I love reading to my son.  For the past month we have been reading his Bible that a very sweet friend got him for his birthday.  We have read other children’s Bibles, but this one is by far the best we have seen.  The stories are detailed and the illustrations are amazing.

Last night we read the story about David and Goliath.  Colin was very into the whole story and was very surprised that David being the “runt” of all his 6 brothers was able to take down and kill Goliath.  He was intrigued so that he woke up telling me how he dreamed about “David killing that mean ‘ol giant” and demanded we read it again.  So it looks like we will be reading that story often.  :)